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Lifestyle - why its ok to be single in your 30's

Hey lovelies,
Recently I have really been enjoying writing more lifestyle posts and I think (hope) you guys like them, while I was recently ill in bed I had plenty of time to reflect on my past and how much my life has now changed for the better.
Anyway why it's ok to be single in your 30's, or any age really, firstly I would like to point out that I am now happily married, but it wasn't always that way, at the age of 30 I became single for the first time in my adult life, after my then husband admitted to countless affairs and I ended the relationship, leaving me a 30 year old single parent someone who he told me know one would ever want......
But you know what, yeah I was sad, yeah I was angry and yeah it hurt my ego, but you know what I got over it. I worked hard at my job, had fun with my kids and went out Friday nights with my girlfriends, something I was rarely "allowed" to do when I was married.
Sometimes I felt lonely but that's ok we are allowed to feel lonely sometimes, and sometimes I felt like I had wasted countless years of my life, then I looked at my kids and realised that two good things had come out of what was otherwise a shity marriage.
 I found myself again I remembered who I was, what I liked to do and I learned I don't "need" a man to be happy, I was finally content in my own skin I earned my own money I made all the decisions and me and the boys where alright.
Gone are the days when you are expected to be in a "steady" relationship by the time your 25 or married with a child by the time your 30, and gone are the days thank God when women have to put up with a relationships that are aggressive, or with a marriage that know longer works, it's OK to be single our relationship status doesn't define us.........
And being single is always 100% better then being in an unhappy relationship. So if you haven't met the "one" yet or you have just come out of a relationship, yep sometimes you will be sad but in time you will be happy and you definitely will survive.

Thanks for reading this post it is the most personal thing I have ever written, but it feels good to finally reflect on a unhappy time in my life and be proud I got through it.....


  1. Great post. I was a single mum for many years it makes you strong! Gemma x

  2. I love this post! I'm actually 25 and have been single for like three years. I totally get this post and think more people should think like you and me!

    S .x


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