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Moving on and meeting someone new

You may of read my recent post Getting over a bad relationship , well this post is kind of a follow up, when you feel ready to meet someone new and making sure you stay safe doing so.

The first step many of us do is sign up to an online dating site, online can be a great way to meet someone, but of course can have its pitfalls, we've all heard the stories from dates gone wrong, but many, I mean thousands of people meet online. It just seems natural that as we spend more of our time tapping away at our laptops or on our phones, that we will also incorporate dating into our online lives.

Gone are the days when couples meet at the dance like our grandparents, or down the pub like our parents, we just do not do these things anymore, especially if like me you live in a small town you just see the same people everytime you go out, or you are related !! which does limit the pool of choice somewhat.

So you decide to take the plunge and go online, I would suggest a quick research before signing up, to make sure the site offers what you are looking for and if there is any cost involved, some websites offer free dating

When it comes to meeting people online the same rules apply really as meeting someone " in real life ", be careful how much information you divulge about yourself, never offer up anything personal, or your address to someone you don't know, and if someone seems too good to be true, they could well be. Not everyone is what they seem. I would certainly suggest googling a potential date, checking their Facebook and seeing if it all looks genuine, fake accounts shouldn't be too hard to spot, they often have very limited information, hardly any friends or tags to anyone else's accounts.

 I would suggest "talking to someone" online and checking them out before offering up your phone number, and never feel pressured to meet someone if you don't feel ready. On the other hand online relationships that go on to long without any firm arrangements to meet, can also set alarm bells ringing, as we can all pretend to be something we are not online, but it's harder in person. Don't get me wrong someone who doesn't want to rush into meeting may just be shy, nervous, or worried that you will spot that the picture they posted is a couple of years old,  they have a few more wrinkles and less hair then you may of thought, or of course they could just be wasting your time.

When you do click with someone and arrange to go on a date, remember to arrange to meet them at the venue, rather than they come to your home. That the place you meet at will have plenty of people there, and is not to near your home. The last thing you want is to keep bumping into someone you went on a date with, but you didn't like, every morning on your before work coffee run, #Awks 
And most importantly always tell someone where you are going, who you are meeting and when you expect to be home.

Dating should be fun, so don't put to much pressure on yourself to meet the "one" within the first week, and certainly expect to come across a few weirdo's, it happens. But also keep an open mind, just because someone isn't your usual type do not immediately dismiss them, remember your ex was your type and look at how that worked out!!

* This is a collaborative post

1 comment

  1. Thanks for the tips! Have a lovely afternoon. Gemma x


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